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I am 16 going on 17. My Rolf is 26 going on 27. What to do?

Anonymous

Rolf? Rolling Over Laughing? Rich Older Life Fucker? A misspelling of Rowlf, the piano playing Muppet dog?

Speculation aside (because honestly I don’t know what you’re talking about), think about the reverse: Would you date a teenager if you were in your late twenties? I wouldn’t. It might even be legal where you live, but just consider this person’s motives and consider all the factors. Chances are there’s probably an ick factor here. It’s a tough call. But most importantly, what the hell is a Rolf?

*Edit: I’ve been informed that this is a Sound of Music reference, in which case you are referring to an older, handsome Nazi named Rolf. So… that’s something to look out for. Because, you know, the Holocaust.


!!!ADVICE LIGHTNING ROUND!!!
1. Shy Guy Syndrome, or SGS, is an affliction that effects millions of dudes, bros, guys, and men the world over. The only known cures are beer, dark enclosed spaces, and women who are willing to take a chance on what seems like a sure thing. These cures can be combined in a super-cure, which is also known as a slam dunk. Shatter that backboard, ma.
2. Feel it out! Be as honest as you want, but be careful, because the difference between 20 (college, usually) and 25 (the real world) is a vast one. People are more guarded, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Just keep yourself open to the possibility that sometimes people play games, and just because you know what you want, doesn’t mean you can’t play along too.
3. If you invited her to a surprise picnic, it’s not a surprise. It’s best to ambush her in the middle of the night with brie, crackers, and wine. And chloroform.*
*Dear God, don’t really do that. But have an edible arrangement sent to her work. That’s a surprise you can EAT!

!!!ADVICE LIGHTNING ROUND!!!

1. Shy Guy Syndrome, or SGS, is an affliction that effects millions of dudes, bros, guys, and men the world over. The only known cures are beer, dark enclosed spaces, and women who are willing to take a chance on what seems like a sure thing. These cures can be combined in a super-cure, which is also known as a slam dunk. Shatter that backboard, ma.

2. Feel it out! Be as honest as you want, but be careful, because the difference between 20 (college, usually) and 25 (the real world) is a vast one. People are more guarded, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Just keep yourself open to the possibility that sometimes people play games, and just because you know what you want, doesn’t mean you can’t play along too.

3. If you invited her to a surprise picnic, it’s not a surprise. It’s best to ambush her in the middle of the night with brie, crackers, and wine. And chloroform.*

*Dear God, don’t really do that. But have an edible arrangement sent to her work. That’s a surprise you can EAT!


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I don't have the best reputation for good hygiene. How can I spruce up for my first date?

Anonymous

Okay here we go. So you’ve got a big date. You get out of your garbage pile and head for the door. WAIT!!! Before you go, check out the bathroom. See that? That place near the kitchen but without the food? Good. Now… walk into the thing that looks like a tiny room IN that bathroom. Notice the silver thing in the wall. Pull it! Water should be spilling out of it! Put all the water on your body and also soap. If you don’t have soap, make sure the water is REALLY hot. Burn the stink off! Now, dry off completely and put on clean clothes and deodorant. NOW walk out the door and never tell your date that you needed advice on how to appear clean and presentable.


Well i have a question, but it's kind of confusing, i'll try to explain.
I used to be with a guy and we were sort of dating each other.
I was very into him and he was also into me but it only lasted a month. It is very confusing to me to understand because we were just fine, but then it became weird; we started to talk less to the point that we just didn't talk.
We never had an argument or something like that, we just stopped talking. I would like to understand this whole situation, so I’m asking for your opinion.

Anonymous

If you want to understand the whole situation, why are you asking me? You should ask the guy you like that you stopped talking to.


I have a problem with getting bored/disinterested when I'm in relationships. I've had numerous relationships and they won't last past 3 months. Am I picking the wrong type of guys or am I just crazy?

Anonymous

Both.


I was set up with a guy. We went on one date and it went really well. He kissed me goodbye/I thought we were gonna go on more dates. ...but then he told me ''he doesn't want to get involved but wants to be friends'' and DEFRIENDS me on facebook? What's up with that?

Anonymous

Please forgive me, but http://tinyurl.com/6qjguq


Hey guys, thanks for all that you have done on this blog, the advice is spot on and helpful.

There is one thing that would be great to elaborate on though, for alot of the guys in the audience.

Us guys need help on the dreaded "nice guy" subject. Is it better to be a nice guy or a bad guy? Girls seem to like bad guys more, yet bad guys make them feel like crap. The girls run to the good guys for help, yet the good guys are always "just friends". Even though we aren't shy, girls just seem to like to look for dudes that don't respect them.

I'm not about to stoop that low. I treat girls with respect, not being "too nice", but im still a gentleman.

So for all the good guys out there whats some advice?

gamecockjoe

Spine. Backbone. Balls. Guts. Just have these things. Whoever decided that “girls like assholes” was making the generalization of the century, and it’s lead to not only confusion, but some of the worst relationships/hookups/dynamics ever. “Girls like assholes” is easy. It’s as easy as “men are dogs” or “all women are crazy” and all it’s good for is comforting you whenever you don’t get laid. There’s a reason pickup artists make so much money telling young dudes like you that you need to wear a feather boa and aviator goggles if you ever want a girl to touch your dick.

Here’s what you should take away from this: girls like all kinds of guys, but they almost universally don’t like self defeating, spineless men without a shred of confidence. If you carry yourself like a total pussy, they’re going to think you have one. You can be the self assured man you want to be without being a prick. Be yourself, and try to like yourself in the process. It’s amazing how much easier all this stuff becomes when you start behaving like you actually believe that women might actually want to be with you. There’s a whole world of possibilities between self deprecating “nice guy” and asshole. Find your middle ground first, then see what happens.


So I've been hanging out with and getting to know this great guy with whom I have several mutual friends. This past Saturday after hanging out at an opening and getting drinks we were saying goodbye in my car, and he confessed to "sucking at stuff with girls." He asked me if I also "sucked at stuff with guys." I thought this was unusually cute and honest. He then said that he wanted to hang out some more, which was also nice and something I want to do as well. He then said, "I'v got to go, but I'm going to give you a hug (and proceeded to hug me), and a kiss (which he did). I was not prepared (fail I know) for this and unfortunately did not kiss him back, but instead said something brilliant like, "that was sweet."

I do like this guy, and I would like to have a second chance at this first kiss business. My question is should I call him (since he sort of made a move and put himself out there), or do I wait for him to call me?

You may now laugh at me.

Anonymous

There’s nothing to laugh about, except maybe how sickeningly adorable you two are. This guy likes you and has made it as abundantly clear as an obviously shy person could. The ball is in your court if you want it to be. If you want to see him again, why wait for him to call you? Get out there and make a shy dude’s dreams come true.


there are no available guys on my college campus. they're all either taken, gay, or just not quality guys. where can i find a guy aside from campus?

unpetitefilleenguenilles

Keep looking. There are THOUSANDS of students at any given college. Even the smallest community college has several hundred enrolled at any given time. If you have gone through literally hundreds upon hundreds of available, age specific single guys and have come up completely empty, maybe they’re not the problem.